About Men

Men are one of the most difficult creatures to understand. I found that even though it's easy to befriend them but they can be annoying and frustrating at the same time. Sometimes they're cool and fine but sometimes they're getting me on my nerve. Perhaps it's because my ego is as big as their ego. Yeah, that's why I am still single in my 30 :p

So I am gonna list some of the things that are so men-related. It's based on my own knowledge after certain encounters with some of the men in my life which didn't work out pretty well *sigh

- Men need someone to constantly validate their own ego

Like it or not, men like to have compliments from women. They like it when a woman compliments his hair style, clothes, or whatever it is. They like it when a woman asks them to take her to a place. Note: it's if the man likes you back. If they don't like you, don't bother. Well, you can try to test them to do something for you. If they're willing to do it for you, then you can go ahead :)

- When men are silent, they most probably have problems in their life or testing or giving the boundaries

This is the thing I really don't like about men. Sometimes I hope I can read their mind when they're silent. Men are not like women, they don't share personal problems with others. They will try to solve them by themselves. So, when they have problems they will walk into their cave not wanting anyone to go in. When they think they have solved the problems, they'll be greeting you again like nothing happens. So, don't get offended if they're silent. Wait till sometimes to see whether he's gonna come back or not. If he's not coming back or still acting indifferent after sometimes, then it may be that he's giving boundaries. Or let me rephrase it "he's just not that into you".

- It's okay for you to text first, to greet first, or to ask him out first

Back at the first rule, men like it when a woman feeds their ego. So, don't be shy and don't be afraid of rejection. If they reject you, well, rejection is a part of life *hugs

- Men don't usually express their feelings bluntly

They prefer to show their feelings from their action. Especially typical of Asian men who are not hopeless romantics or if they are shy. Pay attention to what they've done to you and be appreciative. Say thank you oftenly or say sorry if you need to. Trust me, they'll love it. Back at number one.

- Men usually don't marry the woman they love

When they're ready to get married, they'll marry someone who's coming along at that time. So the saying is, a woman marries the right guy, but a man marries at the right time. If it happens, that you meet the right guy and he's willing to marry you, so it's the right guy for you and the right time for him. Stop being mushy like it's serendipity whatsoever. It's not like that in his dictionary, dude. Therefore I emphasize, find a guy who is ready to get married and learn to love him. Do not date a commitment-phobic man hoping he will marry you someday. Lucky if it happens, but if that doesn't happen, I have warned you, girls :p

- Don't ask them to send you a postcard or write to you

It's only in the movie or book that Mr. Darcy writes to Elizabeth Bennett, that actually he loves her all along. Well may be there are some men who can be hopeless romantic too but most of them are not too mushy. I have ever done something really embarrassing. I told a man I should've walked him to a place, but his answer was, what? I didn't need that, I am not that kind of hopeless romantics. That's so embarrassing, trust me. So, don't do the girly thing to them, like sending them a postcard, or asking them to send you one, or asking them to make you a scrap book, unless you're sure he is a hopeless romantic.

- They are genuine with their feelings

This is the trait I like most from men. They are genuine and logical. When they don't like something, they will point it out. Not like some girls who can say something in front of you but say different things behind your back. Most men don't do that. When you need advice, it's better to go to men than to women. They will give you the most logical advice.

That's all I know about men :D

Perhaps there are more layers that I haven't revealed yet. But that's pretty much I know. 

When we say it's difficult to understand men. Men also have difficulties to understand women. Therefore, a relationship can really work out if both people have tolerance, understanding, patience. I believe that love does not happen a night. It happens through hard and good times, a lot of fights, a lot of arguments, and many more. But if the relationship is right for you, you can also get the warmth of it that makes you want to stay forever and ever. 

I hope that everyone who is single and reading this will find their other half soon enough. Ameen :)