Be yourself, sounds cliche I know.
But I remembered something my friend, Sinta, said to me, which inspired me to write this article. She said to me years ago when I lost my phone, "Vita, you should buy new smart phone, because Vita without social media is not Vita".
And then I remembered that I was very active in social media. I was all over the place. Social media is really a place to vent for me. I have thousands of ideas, racing thoughts in my mind that sometimes need to be taken out. Otherwise, I am gonna be crazy (or already I am #sigh).
There were moments when I suppressed my urge not to vent in social medias, whether it's in facebook or path. It made me so stressful. And I had to admit that there were moments when I shut myself down from all social medias. It was because I was depressed due to some reasons I couldn't elaborate more. Just call it midlife crisis (confession, huh?). I know some people can keep their thoughts for themselves. But it drives me insane when I don't. I am a type of person who is better to share my thoughts in writing than in conversation. Sometimes when I have a conversation with someone I am not as all out as I am when texting or chatting. May be because in texting you don't see the person directly. You don't look at their eyes and gesture. You don't feel shy. The perks of being an introvert, I know right.
The other thing about me is that I am quite opinionated and straightforward. So when I like something I will say it and if I don't I will show it too. Sometimes I am quite expressive about this trait. When I like someone I can't help myself smiling, giggling, and telling all the good things about that person to everyone I know. My mom used to be the victim of my story about my crush, boys, friends I like. And when I am upset toward someone, I usually don't say anything. I just keep silent until it melts down at some point. That's the bad side of me. I don't like to communicate when I am upset. Sometimes it creates troubles and conflicts for the people around me. And sometimes my opinionated trait offends people who are highly sensitive. I don't realize that I am just joking but it turns out the other person takes it seriously. This is something I need to be more mindful of. My sense of humor is oftenly going too far.
Nevertheless, I am happy that I can be honest with myself. I am happy that I can be open with my strengths and shortcomings.
That's what we need to do. BE GENUINE. Just don't try to be someone you are not for the sake of "image". You want people to think that you are cool, that you are smart. You try hard to be someone you are not. For me it is sad. You're not being genuine with yourself and with people around you. I like to see people with various emotion. When they're happy they're genuinely happy. When they're angry they don't hesitate to show that. Nothing to hide and nothing to lie about. Don't be afraid to speak out your mind. Just.don't.surpress.it.
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