You Are Complete

There are people who no matter you love them, will never be able to love you in return. Not because the feeling is unrequited, but because they are incapable of loving. Why are some people incapable of loving? The nature of human being is to love one another. The basic thing people need is to love and to be loved. Yes, it is true. But somehow, people turn out to be cold hearted because of certain things such as insecurity, low self esteem, and also some traumatic experiences. There are people who are amazing. People believe that they are wonderful, smart, and pretty. But they will never believe what people say. Because they have deep seated insecurities. May be when they were kids, they were verbally abused by the closest family or friends. That's why they have low self esteem. There are also people who believe that none will love them. May be because their significant other had betrayed them, which makes them trust people less. There are always reasons why people act one way or another.

We name them narcissists, insecure people, and many more. Many psychological researches have been done to analyze their behaviors. The real fact is that they don't understand why they act like that. They need help. But none can help them. Only they can help themselves. Only by realizing that they have problems that they can change themselves. Only by opening up their old wounds and accepting that the wounds were there to teach them something, that they can heal themselves. They hurt people in the process. But they will never realize it until it's too late. They hurt people who were kind, supportive and patient enough to deal with their issues. But they were too stubborn to understand it. And finally only regrets will come when those backbones, those supporters were gone. They are longing for love, but it's only an idea of love because they can never achieve that feelings of fulfillment. They always look for fulfillment outside because they think they are not enough. They are lonely. The real loneliness is when you don't love yourself. Isn't it miserable?

If you're reading this and feeling the same thing, please reflect upon it and change. You're a beautiful human being. You are loved. You are not unworthy. You're enough. You're complete. Keep repeating those mantra and you'll be amazed how emotionally healthy you'll become. And if you are at the receiving end of the treatment from people who can't love, keep in mind that it's not you to blame. You can't change them. It's not your responsibility to fix them. Just let them go.